Today’s topic is to express what letting go means to you. As soon as i read the topic i couldn’t stop thinking about the book Eat, Pray, Love by: Elizabeth Gilbert. I read this book three years ago before the movie with Julia Roberts came out. This book spoke to me in such a deep level.
At the moment i was in an unhealthy relationship that was going nowhere with a guy who did not appreciate me, believe it or not this book opened my eyes to what was going on. I connected with the author who at the beginning of the book was depressed and done with her marriage. After a painful divorce she escapes to Italy, then India and later Bali, in a quest to find herself. During her travels she learned to let go of her past in order to appreciate the mystery that comes hand in hand with the future. After realizing how depressed and unhappy i was in my own relationship, much like the author, i got the courage to end it.
To me, letting go is exactly that, realizing that what lies in front of you is not what’s best for you, accepting it and deciding it’s time for a change, because you deserve it. The book teaches you that part of letting go is acknowledging that you are alone, and recognizing that is the key to moving on. This quote explains this better than i could ever express it:
She confides in her friend Richard that she is missing her ex, David- she tells him that she still loves him, that she misses him, etc. His response was: “So miss him. Send him some love and light every time you think about him, and then you drop it. You’re just afraid to let go of the last bits of David because then you’ll really be alone, and Liz Gilbert is scared to death of what will happen if she’s really alone…If you clear out all that space in your mind that you’re using right now to obsess about this guy, you’ll have a vacuum there, an open spot– a doorway. And guess what that universe will do with that doorway? It will rush in– God will rush in– and fill you with more love than you ever dreamed. So stop using David to block that door. Let it go…You’re wishing too much baby. You gotta stop wearing your wishbone where your backbone oughtta be.”
Day 30/31 blogging Every Day in May