How to fall in love with your spouse everyday

Posted In: Advice | Personal

While mentally browsing new topics to blog about, this idea came up and i thought it would be fun to share with you the little things i’ve noticed my husband and i do everyday – or mostly everyday for that matter. It’s very important to continue to fall in love with your partner while in a long-term relationship, especially in marriage. Let’s face it, when you spend so much time with someone the little things start to mean more. Here’s 10 little things you can do to fall in love with your spouse over and over again.

1. Take initiative.Β You walk into your house and you notice a lot of things on the floor or where they are supposed to be, why not take a few minutes to pick things up and take them to their rightful place. Trust me your spouse will notice.

2. Let him/her win sometimes. I don’t know about you but i like being right, but sometimes you have to step back and let your spouse win, whether it’s in an argument or on who gets the remote.

3. Ode to dirty dishes. Nobody likes doing the dishes, NOBODY. What works for me and my husband is one of us cooks and the other one cleans, and we try to swap this out everyday. When we are both not feeling like it we try and tackle the mess together, that way we finish faster! πŸ™‚

4.Β Be silly.Β G pointed out that we a lot of quirky sayings and weird jokes that are just funny between us. I believe you should be silly together, because besides being lovers you should be the best of friends.

5. Be spontaneous.Β Even ifΒ it’s with a little treat from the grocery store or a sexy little number! Surprising each other means even when the other person is not there, they are always in your mind. G and i aren’t really good at surprising each other with big things, but small things we can do.

6.Β Give each other space.Β Husband likes to come home from work and unwind with a long shower. At first it was sort of weird, but after a while it has become a norm. I, on the other hand, like to tune-out when i’m blogging. You’ll find me in another room, playing some tunes to get me in the writing mood, and G knows well enough to leave me be. It’s really important to have some sort of alone time.

7. Talk to each other. You don’t have to tell each other every detail of your day, but it’s important to communicate with one another. Start by asking your spouse about his day and if they have a hard time sharing just tell them about yours, in time they will want to tell their side. Not only does this build a bond, but also trust and reassurance.

8. Be kind to one another. Yes, sometimes you call your spouse names when your mad, but you have to try and refrain yourself from hurting them. Long-term relationships tend to fall into habits and tricks, but it’s important to make an effort to be kind. Take the time to say nice things to your partner. This will make them feel loved, which will in turn bring the love back to you.

9. Share new experiences. You don’t have to be expats to explore your home turf. Instead of spending your weekends at home how about waking up extra early and driving somewhere new. Step out of your comfort zone and try new things together. G took me sailing and although it wasn’t really myself that day and i thought i was going to die, i can’t deny that we had fun.

10. Never stop dating. Before our big church wedding we had pre-marriage counseling with the chaplain of G’s Regiment. One thing he shared with us is that you should never stop dating your spouse. You should always make time for dates, for cuddling on the couch, for surprises (big or small), for holding hands, among other things.

Q: In your experience, what other things would you add to this list?Β Do you think it’s important to fall in love with your spouse everyday?

  • abby – little city adventures

    such a sweet post! Seth and I try to do pretty much all of these, especially with Baby coming! Thanks for the reminder…this is a great list to keep on hand!

  • Aww these are so cute! I'm not married, but something that I love doing with Mark is cooking together, even if one person ends up doing most of the work haha. We always end up dancing or doing silly things in the kitchen πŸ™‚

  • Yes, I do think it's is important to fall in love with your spouse EVERY SINGLE DAY. I believe that marriage is like a plant. It needs constant "watering" for it to stay alive. Marriage is not something you say "I do" one day and forget. My husband and I practice all of the tips you talked about, but I am sure somebody will find those tips useful. Great post! Thanks for sharing!

  • thanks! it felt really good to finally sit down and write this sweet post πŸ™‚ i'm so glad you liked it!

  • Aww i love cooking together too!! Whenever we do, my husband usually does the meat and i do the sides. We also always end up being silly :)) It's the best!

  • I'm with you, too. I'm not married either but these are things that could definitely be applied to my relationship.

    Thanks for posting this, Laura!

  • I totally agree! Marriage is something you have to work at every single day! I'm glad you enjoyed my tips and i really hope people find them useful!! :))

  • I think these are all really important things to remember. It doesn't have to be hard work, but marriage requires the attention of both people in it every day. I believe in being as deliberate as possible with your actions. Sometimes when I'm cooking my husband just stands and talks to me. He doesn't have to help, but just spending that time with him (rather than knowing he's flaked out on the sofa watching TV) makes cooking more enjoyable.